The Effects of the Willie Lynch Letter

Kevin Samuels didn't fully understand it...

Kevin Samuels' death was a shock to my system. I, like many Black women, was not a fan. His delivery was the issue. His platform was abusive and filled with vitriol toward Black women, yet a message was still mixed up in the madness.

With today's reality show mentality, it's easy to draw viewers in with controversial commentary and demeaning words, especially if the platform is talking about something someone wants to say but doesn't have the voice to speak. There is a certain insecurity in some of our brothers, and it stems from fatherless homes and emasculating mothers (don't trip if this isn't you, Sis). Our family unit has been broken for far too long, and unfortunately, what Kevin Samuels was trying to say couldn't be received because his toxic delivery drowned it out.

Some brothers defend his speech because a specific type of sister speaks to and about Black men like they're our enemies. "That n!**a ain't shit." Sisters, let's keep it 100, as the young folks say; our tongues can be sharper than a samurai sword when we are angry. We emasculate without thinking about it. But, this behavior also has a root. It is steeped in the epigenetics associated with post-traumatic slave syndrome, as described by Dr. Joy Degruy.

Enslaved women were raped, beaten, and abused in front of enslaved men. The enslaved man didn't stand up and fight for her, not just because he feared death but because of the torture that would come before it. This carried on beyond the plantation. The Willie Lynch Letter explains this in intricate detail. Yes, I know the letter has been debunked, but by whom? We're not going to get into the authenticity of the letter. We are, however, going to talk about the truth it carries.

"Nature had provided for this type of balance. We reversed nature by burning and pulling a civilized nigger apart and bullwhipping the other to the point of death, all in her presence. By her being left alone, unprotected, with the MALE IMAGE DESTROYED, the ordeal caused her to move from her psychologically dependent state to a frozen, independent state. In this frozen, psychological state of independence, she will raise her MALE and female offspring in reversed roles. For FEAR of the young male's life, she will psychologically train him to be MENTALLY WEAK and DEPENDENT, but PHYSICALLY STRONG."

The letter explains that if Lynch's methods are adequately orchestrated, the effects will last and control the "ni**er” for hundreds of years. Well, here we are about 200 years past the plantation, and we're still turning on one another with the help of our very own.

Let's direct this to why we do this to each other…it's simple: money. We've come to understand the power of it. However, the 1% controls the narrative. We do not own media outlets like YouTube, but we're still looking for plantation trinkets and doing whatever it takes to get them. Kevin Samuels amassed a following of a million plus viewers with his off-the-wall rhetoric on his channel. This garnered him a comfortable lifestyle but at what cost? While some of his messages had an element of truth, he sold himself out trying to make money at the expense of Black women.

As a spiritual sister, I understand the consequences of offending our ancestors and not heeding their warnings before they intercede. Samuels’ biggest mistake was advising a Black man to walk away from a Black woman and find comfort in another race if she could not be his peace. Peace is a reciprocated energy. If I am bleeding out and you are bleeding out, we don’t turn to other people to save us. We apply pressure to each other’s wounds until they heal.

I wish Mr. Samuels had more time to amend his words and deliver his message productively, but the ancestors called him home. I extend respect to his existence, unlike the vitriol he spewed about Black women on his channel. Why? Because I honor the God in me.

Now, here is a reality check. Brothers, if you're not diligently involved with the Black community, if you're not mentoring in the Black community, then you should expect nothing from the community or its women. Sisters, expect nothing from our men if you're complaining about how worthless they are. Why? Because you're not doing anything to change the dynamics of what is broken in our community.

I invite all who read this blog to read the Willie Lynch Letter. If you've read it before, read it again.

Maybe then we can realign our love for one another and come back to the middle. A divisive root runs DEEP and STRONG in the Black community. It is long overdue to weed it out, once and for all. It began long before feminism. Now, here is a solution. Brothers, stop trying to dismantle a Black woman’s crown. Yours will be too heavy to wear without ours. Sisters understand the divine feminine cannot exist without the divine masculine. You need a man if you want to raise healthy children. Balance is required. Learn him well before you give yourself to him so your choice is not based on emotions.

This tit-for-that behavior of tearing each other down is as destructive and dangerous as one child pushing another off a swing (mid-air) on a playground. It's time for grown-up dialog so that we can grow and build together.

One Love Family